After disclosure....

My boyfriend asked me if it would be okay for him to begin seeing my current therapist for personal sessions because he felt she was more engaging and more experienced in dealing with sexual addiction than his current therapist.
I told him that was fine.
My therapist told him she would only treat him if I gave her permission to do so, so that it would not be a conflict of interest since I had been her patient first. I told her I didn't mind her treating him.
When he began his treatment with her, he signed a release form giving me full access to all of his records. This was a major turning point for me because this meant that he was willing to be 100% transparent.
I was still hesitant about resuming our relationship. I was confused about his sexuality since his acting out involved men and transsexuals. My therapist explained that sometimes male sex addicts who engage in sex acts with other men are not gay or bisexual, because they arent necessarily sexually attracted to men, but more importantly they do not feel romantically attracted to them. She explained that for my boyfriend, it had to do with engaging in behaviors that were considered "taboo or wrong" because he had seen (viewing porn) and done everything else and it wasn't giving him the high anymore. This was also the case with viewing illegal materials. He knew it was wrong and he wasn't a pedophile, but it was exciting to see something new and it raised the risk factor which gave him the high he craved.
We began couples therapy every other week and continued this for 6-8 months. In addition, we both continued to have individual monthly sessions with her to recap, follow-up or deal with anything that had come up.  In total we spent close to a year and a half seeing our therapist regularly, but she felt we were stable so at this time we only schedule appointments with her as needed.