My Story

This is the short version of my story. My first few blogs go more into detail.

I had just ended a horrific relationship with an alcoholic/drug addict (who I now see was also a sex addict) so I was not really looking to get into another relationship. I met this handsome man and we began hanging out. Early on I felt something was different about him I just wasn't sure what it was. He was confident, quiet, (unusually) calm and introverted...unlike any guy I had dated before. 

We took things very slow!!! 8 months after we began spending time together. I finally brought up the fact that we had never really discussed where our relationship was going, so we made it official! 4 months later he told me he loved me for the first time!  A year later he started talking about marriage and I began planning our wedding in my head and dreaming of the future. 2 months later, my world came crashing down! He had confessed he was in legal trouble because of his acting out. I was blindsided and devastated. I no longer saw a future with him in it. 

For 6 weeks I had refused to have contact with him, but eventually we had a full disclosure with my therapist. It was at that time that I learned there was way more I didn't know about. This man I grew to love was a complete stranger!

We both began recovery and with the help of our therapist we learned how to communicate and be our true selves. We slowly began rebuilding our relationship. 

After a year of intense therapy, 12 step meetings and separate group therapy we decided to get engaged. A year after that we got married. 

While it has been a heartbreaking journey at times, it was not without lessons. This process of recovery has taught me so much about myself and I have dealt with deep issues I probably never would have addressed otherwise.  I also believe that it has strengthened our bond and our love for one another. As crazy as it may sound I am grateful it happened.