A bump near the end of the road...

So my husband is supposed to be ready for early release from probation in a few short months. His PO stopped by to drop off the paperwork for his final polygraph. Later while my Husband was going through the paperwork he decided it was best to let me know.... a few months ago while I was out of town for work, he went to an adult store (a violation of his probation). So he told me that of course it would come out in the poly so he had to tell his PO what happened.
I was livid!!! I felt like he has betrayed me all over again. I really wasn't upset that he went to the store (except that it was a violation of probation), I was more upset that it took him 2 months to tell me and the only reason he did is because he knew it would come out in the poly. I told him he was selfish and that he set back my recovery and trust of him, and that I didn't know if I could go through this crap forever...we barely spoke for days. He started going back to SAA meetings and we have a therapy session booked.
For 4 days he tried getting in touch with the PO and we stressed about what would happen. His PO just basically said that it's rare for guys not to have some slip ups. They just expect that when it does happen that they own up to it and report it.
So my husband had his poly last week....mostly passed. There was just one inconclusive about him having any devices capable of accessing internet which have not been reported... neither of us can figure out what it could be.
So now we wait for the poly results to be sent to his PO, then his whole file to be sent to a judge who will decide when to release him from probation. His PO said some judges just sign even before the due date, others wait until the due date to sign. So as of now it could be anytime. I am impatiently waiting.... I'm ready for this chapter to be closed!!!

Bittersweet October

I just realized it's been quite a while since my last post so it's about time for an update.
The probation officer has told us that he should be eligible for release from probation in the early part of next year which is great news...except that he has to go through another polygraph. He has completed his treatment and complied with all rules of probation, but a part of me is still nervous. I also think it is stupid considering polygraphs are not admissible in court.
On a sad note, October is a gut-punch month. Not only can we not decorate or celebrate Halloween (which I never cared about until I wasn't "allowed" to), but October is the month that I found out about everything (wow...3 years ago) so it is a reminder of the lies, betrayal and pain I went through. Yuck!
Coincidentally it is also the month of our anniversary (we just celebrated our first...YAY!!!), but if I'm being honest, it's been sort of bittersweet. Last year I was in knee deep in wedding planning mode/bliss, so I didn't even think about it, but this year is a little different without the distractions. Time to find a new hobby!

Peaceful

Things have been nice and quiet lately. My husband finished his required sex offender treatment program. As of now the reclassification has been stayed, although we aren't sure for how long.
We are hoping his PO will put in the request for early release from probation soon so we can finally travel and see family. I cannot wait until we are free....well, more free!